Comments on: He Ain’t Heavy. Ok, He’s a Little Heavy.

By: girlplease

girlplease — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 22:35:57 +0000

I get it. I am an only child then *poof* “hey you’re adopted”. So given that I’m nosey as hell I hired an investigator and *poof* “you have an older half brother.”

I did the meet and greet with my 1/2 brother and birth mom. Let’s just say when you ask the ‘so who’s the dad’ question, maybe you shouldn’t have asked about the situation/what happened. A little much for me to handle.

So I don’t talk with the mom–never connected really. And I talk with my 1/2 brother on Facebook but I think he’s into this sibling thing more than I am. He’s nice and all but I just don’t “know” him like a brother and him calling me ‘sis’ is weird.

So I get it. Do what you feel is right.

By: mdreeder

mdreeder — Tue, 09 Jun 2009 08:26:43 +0000

Thanks.:)

By: Stac

Stac — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 01:07:43 +0000

Im jealous. I’m the Lonely child, the only product from either of my parents. Sometimes I dream I have a blood sibling out there, but my cousins are as close as I’ll ever get.

By: Joelle

Joelle — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 15:01:17 +0000

I agree. It’s an adjustment, but I think it offers the opportunity to decide if we even like each other first. haha!

By: Joelle

Joelle — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 14:59:56 +0000

I find it fascinating, too. No, neither of them grew up around our dad, so I don’t know if my dad’s corny sense of humor is genetic or what…

By: CLD

CLD — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 12:56:23 +0000

As the oldest of three sisters, I say, welcome, baby sister!

You know what’s great about meeting siblings in this manner? As your older sister so aptly displayed: you can choose to meet and form relationships; or not. I wouldn’t trade my two younger sisters and growing up together for anything, but I think if I didn’t have that and then found it thrust upon me, I’d rather have the choice of being in their lives or not. I think that makes a modicum of rambly-ness sense.

CLD’s recent blog entry: Get Off Your Ass

By: Marcy

Marcy — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 11:34:25 +0000

Ahhh La Familgia…
Coming from a rather large extended family… I know first hand how they can get on your nerves ….
Yet….
There really is nothing like looking into someones eyes , that you know well.. or … have just met for the first time.
( Just went to Italy and met some more of the clan I didn’t know)
and see that “Something” that you can’t quite describe.. Yet is something you both share.
We all want to feel we are not alone in life… and siblings, cousins, etc etc etc can do that….

Maybe it’s like alot of things in life… It may be the “Idea” of what family is that we all miss/strive for?
Meh… What do I know? .. All this Psycho babble has made me hungry…
P.S.
Love that your blog made me think..it happens so rarely…lol

By: Billie

Billie — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 04:51:54 +0000

Not that it’s any of my business, but I’m fascinated by the “family dynamic” and how mannerisms and habits, likes and dislikes all develop. So my question is, you say that you see similarities in the 3 of you, did they grow up around your dad at all? I mean you said you didn’t know until you were 15, so that would seem that there was a lack of contact between your father and brothers at least during that 15 year period. Sorry if it’s too personal, was just wondering if it was more genetic or learned mannerisms. I’ll shut up now….hahaha