If they want to accept your apology then great, if not, then you did the decent thing and you can feel good about that, and you also sound like you learned from the experience.

But that’s life you know. People fuck up and learn and do better in their future relationships with others. A lot of people who are sorry do not even go back and apologize. Not even on their blogs! So yea don’t beat up yourself about it too long.

Just kidding.  I know exactly what you mean though.  I don’t think I ever was 100% myself.

Yup, I saw where you said that.  Just giving you a bump on the bum to follow up. 

So when are you gonna put out your vanity jazz CD?  Hmmmm???

Mike

I rarely comment, so just to be clear, I’m not admonishing you….I’m encouraging you.  There’s a good chance that they’ve forgotten about it, but it’s always a really nice thing to make amends.  I think it shows character.

And if you think 35 wakes up your conscience, wait until you hit 45.  I’m almost there, and the view can be….um…interesting.

Mike

Even recently, I twittered about how the friends I was staying with had a penchant for just leaving the living room and assuming because I was there working I’d just watch the kids for them. Only I didn’t quite put it so nicely. Needless to say, one of said friends saw it later and got all angry with me. I owned up, apologized and then said, “well, can we compromise and you at least ask if I’ll watch your kids and not just assume I’ll do it just because I’m in the same room?” Case closed.

After four years, if anybody does remember the post you did, then just deal with it as it happens. Nobody’s perfect and if they can’t accept that, that’s their problem. Most likely though, you’re feeling worse about it today than they are.

I just turned 35 this past January and I have been taking “stock” on some of the things that I have done and really owning up to them. It’s not a fun process, but remember, integrity is doing the right thing when no one is looking.